The Silverback's Guide
Books for Men Going Through Divorce
Is there a book for a bloke going through a divorce?
The Silverback's Guide to Divorce: the financial maths, lawyers, mediation, property settlement, custody, co-parenting, the affair audit and the rebuild. Written in Australia, by a bloke who has been through it.
This is the chapter most blokes need most and the chapter most blokes skip until it is too late. The Silverback has been here. The Silverback has friends who have been here. The Silverback has met men in lawyers' waiting rooms wearing the thousand-yard stare of a man who was told six months ago that this isn't working anymore and is now learning what this meant. The book is for that man: what to do this week, what it will cost, what not to put in writing, and how to still be present in his kids' lives in three years.
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What this covers
01
The direct legal fees, the property settlement and the lifetime cost, in numbers
02
Choosing a lawyer: cheap lawyers cost more, senior counsel saves money
03
Mediation, settlement and custody without weaponising the kids
04
Don't drink through it, walk every day, survive year one
The Silverback says
Survive Year One. Stabilise Year Two. Build Year Three.
Arena 7 · The field manual
The Silverback's Guide to Divorce
The arena nobody briefed you on.
The financial maths. Lawyers. Mediation. Property settlement. Child custody. Co-parenting. The affair audit. The rebuild. Sixteen chapters, forty laws of survival, recovery and rebirth.
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Questions about books for men going through divorce
Is it legal advice?+
No. It is a field manual from lived experience and research, and it tells you plainly when to get a lawyer, a mediator, a counsellor or a GP. It is not a substitute for any of them.
I am not divorced yet, just separated. Is it too early?+
The book's first law is to get the best lawyer you can afford early, before separation if possible. Earlier is better. Reading it now is not pessimism; it is preparation.
Is there anything about the kids?+
A great deal. Custody, co-parenting, the contact regression that pushes fathers out of their children's lives, and the rule that the kids work it all out by seventeen. They always do.
The Seven Arenas
Which arena is on fire?
01
Being a Man
The internal arena. Who are you when nobody is watching?
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02
Money
Runway, super, the ASX, and not lying awake at 3am.
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03
Selling
Every conversation where someone agrees to something is a sale.
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04
Conflict
Your wife. Your boss. Your kids. The bloke at the registration desk.
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05
Bullies
From the sandpit to the nursing home. How to handle them without becoming one.
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06
Dating
Get this one wrong and the rest of the wins feel hollow.
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07
Divorce
The most expensive event most Australian men will ever experience.
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