The Silverback's Guide
Books for Men Going Through Divorce
Is there a book for a bloke going through a divorce?
The Silverback's Guide to Divorce: the numbers, legal costs, property settlement, child support, time with the kids, the affair maths, the question of repair and your first 30 days. Written for Australian family law, with safety first.
'Divorce has a way of making a capable man feel as though somebody has moved every switch in the house overnight.' This book is for the bloke considering it, the bloke already in it and the bloke standing in a rental kitchen wondering which drawer the spatulas go in. It puts safety before the budget. It separates four jobs that interact but are not settled by one process: the divorce itself, property, parenting arrangements and child support. It shows how a legal bill is built using clearly labelled illustrations, not promised outcomes, so you can ask a lawyer better questions instead of playing one. And it does not treat a family as disposable: there are chapters on whether the marriage can be repaired, too.
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What this covers
01
Safety comes first: before the budget, before the banter, and where to get help
02
The four jobs: divorce, property, parenting arrangements and child support
03
How legal fees are built, and the settlement arithmetic, as labelled illustrations
04
The kids: honest information, no messages tucked inside the lunchbox
05
Before you nuke it, if it is already happening, and your first 30 days
The Silverback says
Think before you blow up something repairable. Get help before you try to carry something unbearable.
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The Silverback's Guide to Divorce
Count the cost. Keep your head.
The numbers, the legal carnage, property settlement, child support, the affair maths, the kids and the question of repair. Sixteen chapters, forty laws of marriage preservation and a plan for your first 30 days.
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Questions about books for men going through divorce
Is it legal advice?+
No. It is general information and commentary for Australia, and WA has separate rules for some matters. It helps you prepare for a lawyer, mediator, counsellor or GP; it does not replace any of them.
I am not divorced yet, just separated. Is it too early?+
No. It is written for blokes considering it as well as blokes already in it. If you have just had the conversation, the book suggests starting with the safety page, Chapter 14 ('If It's Already Happening') and the first-30-days plan.
Is there anything about the kids?+
Chapter 11 is about them. Children need safety, dependable care and room to be children. Australian parenting decisions centre on the child's best interests and there is no automatic entitlement to equal time, so, in the book's words, 'Your situation needs advice, not a mate's memory of his case.'
The Nine Arenas
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01
Being a Man
Character, purpose and the daily work of becoming dependable, including asking for help.
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02
Money
Habits, risk and financial decisions, from the bottom of the world.
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03
Selling
Listening, explaining value and following through. Remember the person across the table.
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04
Conflict
Difficult conversations, composure and repair, without demanding the last word.
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05
Bullies
From the sandpit to the nursing home. Strength without becoming another bully.
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06
Dating
Honesty, curiosity, consent and rejection. Meet people without an exhausting performance.
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07
Divorce
Separation, children and rebuilding. Keep your head and protect what matters.
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08
Leadership
Decisions, responsibility and listening. The standard others experience.
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09
Spotting a Con
Pressure, flattery and missing information. Pause before committing.
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