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What Is a Silverback

What is a Silverback?

A Silverback is a man who has been through it, whatever "it" was, and came out the other side with his integrity intact, his sense of humour intact, and a working knowledge of which mistakes not to make twice.

A Silverback is not a gym bro. Not a bloke in a Lamborghini telling you about passive income while he rents the Lamborghini and lives with his mum. Not the loudest man in the room, the richest, or the man with the most mirrors in his house. He is, more often than not, the quietest bloke at the bar: the one nursing a beer, scanning the exits, quietly noticing that the bloke at table four is about to do something stupid. The manifesto gives four markers. He has been broken and is back. He has stopped pretending. He says less than he used to. He shows up.

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The Silverback's Guide: The Expanded Manifesto

What this covers

  1. 01

    Marker one: he has been broken and is actually back, quietly, without the soundtrack

  2. 02

    Marker two: he has done his time in the costume department and stopped pretending

  3. 03

    Marker three: he'd rather be effective than impressive

  4. 04

    Marker four: he shows up, for everything, especially the inconvenient things

The Silverback says

A Silverback is not made by his triumphs. He is made by his collapses, and by the fact that he got back up afterwards without becoming a complete prick about it.

The Silverback's Guide: The Expanded Manifesto

Book One · The lead volume

The Silverback's Guide

One voice. Seven battles. One way of being a man.

The lead volume. The thesis, the map, and the most important content from all seven field manuals in one book. Most blokes who only read one read this one.

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Questions about what is a silverback

Is a Silverback the same as an alpha male?+

No. The alpha model is a performance sold by people who need you to keep buying it. The Silverback is a posture, not a position: the choice, made forty times a day, to do the right thing instead of the easy thing, without becoming sanctimonious about it.

Can a young bloke be a Silverback?+

Every bloke is somewhere on the path. Some are sprinting, some are crawling, some are lost in the bush going in circles. The job is not to judge where anyone is on it; it is to keep walking and shout "this way" over your shoulder for anyone listening.

Where is this explained in full?+

Chapter one of the Expanded Manifesto, 'What Is a Silverback? The Species, The Habitat, The Warning Signs.' It is the first thing in the book for a reason.

The Complete Library

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  • The Silverback's Guide
  • The Silverback's Guide to Being a Man
  • The Silverback's Guide to Money
  • The Silverback's Guide to Selling
  • The Silverback's Guide to Conflict
  • The Silverback's Guide to Bullies
  • The Silverback's Guide to Dating
  • The Silverback's Guide to Divorce

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