Book One · The lead volume
The Manifesto
Nine arenas. One code. A standard worth practising.
The lead volume and the foundation of the first ten books. The code, the map of all nine arenas and ninety principles to practise, in one place.
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Arena Four · Book 5 of 10
The Silverback's Guide to Conflict
How to Handle Objections, De-Escalate Dickheads, and Win Every Argument You Never Wanted to Have in the First Place
Win the person, not the argument.
Most people handle conflict like a spider in the bathroom: freeze, panic, overreact, or pretend it's not there and hope someone else deals with it. This is the field guide for salespeople who hear "too expensive" in their sleep, managers who inherit other people's messes, and anyone cornered at a barbecue by a bloke with no off switch. De-escalation, the Harvard method, tactical empathy and the art of the pause, then price, timing, trust and committee objections, hostile buyers, hard conversations at work and recovering from a blow-up. It is commentary, not legal or clinical advice, and no script guarantees agreement. It just gives you a better next sentence.
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Inside the book
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The six-second pause, a five-step de-escalation framework and the boundary ladder: talk, pause, leave
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The Harvard method in plain English: interests not positions, options for mutual gain, an agreed yardstick
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Tactical empathy with a spine: labelling, the accusation audit, mirroring and strategic silence
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Price, positioning, timing, trust and committee objections, the silent treatment and hostile buyers
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Difficult conversations at work, conflict with clients and teams, and recovering from a blow-up
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Forty scripts, thirty laws, a one-page conflict playbook and seven days of practice
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The Nine Arenas
The other arenas
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Being a Man
Character, purpose and the daily work of becoming dependable, including asking for help.
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Money
Habits, risk and financial decisions, from the bottom of the world.
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Selling
Listening, explaining value and following through. Remember the person across the table.
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Conflict
Difficult conversations, composure and repair, without demanding the last word.
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Bullies
From the sandpit to the nursing home. Strength without becoming another bully.
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Dating
Honesty, curiosity, consent and rejection. Meet people without an exhausting performance.
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Divorce
Separation, children and rebuilding. Keep your head and protect what matters.
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Leadership
Decisions, responsibility and listening. The standard others experience.
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Spotting a Con
Pressure, flattery and missing information. Pause before committing.
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Arena 1
Being a Man
The standard you practise when nobody is arranging an audience.
Integrity, mental health, fatherhood, friendship, work, failure and starting again. The first arena taken deeper, in twenty-three chapters about the man people actually live with.
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Money & Investing
Make money your tool, not your master.
Household basics, super, the ASX, index funds, global investing, property, bonds, risk, tax and crypto, with the foundations laid first. Twenty-one chapters, forty golden rules, three field sheets.
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Leadership
Stepping out of the shadows without the costume.
The lie of leadership. Goggins, Robbins, Brené and Jocko, translated. The seven fears of being seen. Hard calls, hiring, firing and the 3am founder mind. Twenty-eight chapters, fifty laws.
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Spotting a Con
Fog, speed and shame, and the answer to each.
Cialdini's six levers. The scam factory. The Man in the Lanyard. Romance, crypto and the changed bank detail. Twenty chapters, fifty laws of not getting done, and twenty-five lines for pausing, checking or declining.
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