The Silverback’s Guide Series
Arena Four
The Silverback’s Guide to
Conflict
Winning without burning the house down.
Arena Four · Book 5 of 8
Arena Four. The Negotiation Arena.
Winning without burning the house down.
Anyone who says they don't do conflict is lying. They do conflict. They just lose. They lose by avoiding, by going passive-aggressive, by capitulating and resenting it for years, by exploding once a year and scaring everyone. Conflict avoidance is not peace; it is delayed war. This volume is the neuroscience of losing your temper, the 18-minute rule, Voss's tools, and the discipline of winning the person instead of the argument, with your wife, your boss, your customers, your kids and the bloke at the registration desk.
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The bloke who goes quiet, the bloke who goes loud, and the bloke who sends the email at 2am.
01
The amygdala lies: what happens in your head and the 18-minute rule
02
Bargain over interests, not positions: the Harvard method in plain English
03
Mirror, label, audit, pause: tactical empathy that actually works
04
Forty scripts, word for word, for the conversations you dread
05
Walking away as a strategy, and peace as a daily discipline
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Win the person, not the argument. The relationship is the asset.
The Seven Arenas
01
Being a Man
The internal arena. Who are you when nobody is watching?
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02
Money
Runway, super, the ASX, and not lying awake at 3am.
The field manual →
03
Selling
Every conversation where someone agrees to something is a sale.
The field manual →
04
Conflict
Your wife. Your boss. Your kids. The bloke at the registration desk.
The field manual →
05
Bullies
From the sandpit to the nursing home. How to handle them without becoming one.
The field manual →
06
Dating
Get this one wrong and the rest of the wins feel hollow.
The field manual →
07
Divorce
The most expensive event most Australian men will ever experience.
The field manual →
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The Books
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Book One · The lead volume
One voice. Seven battles. One way of being a man.
The lead volume. The thesis, the map, and the most important content from all seven field manuals in one book. Most blokes who only read one read this one.
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Arena One
The Silverback’s Guide to
Being a Man
The foundation everything else stands on.
Arena 1
The foundation everything else stands on.
Mental health, suicide prevention, fatherhood, friendship, integrity, purpose, legacy. Fail here and the other six arenas collapse like a deck of cards in a strong wind.
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Arena Two
The Silverback’s Guide to
Money
Building the empire from the bottom of the world.
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Arena Three
The Silverback’s Guide to
Selling
The skill that pays for everything.
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Arena Five
The Silverback’s Guide to
Bullies
Standing up without becoming one.
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Arena Six
The Silverback’s Guide to
Dating
Connection in the age of the algorithm.
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Arena Seven
The Silverback’s Guide to
Divorce
The arena nobody briefed you on.
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