The Silverback's Guide
Dating After Divorce for Men
How does a bloke start dating again after divorce?
Be a man worth meeting before you go meeting. Rebuild first, date second, and if you are a single dad the kids do not meet her until she has been around six months.
Dating after a divorce is a different sport from dating at twenty-four, and most of the advice out there is written for twenty-four-year-olds. The Silverback's Guide to Dating has a full treatment for the divorced bloke and the older Silverback: how long to wait, what honesty in a profile actually looks like, how to run a first date as a conversation rather than an audition, the six-month rule for single dads, and the Gottman research on why the last relationship failed so that the next one does not fail the same way.
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What this covers
01
Rebuild before you date: the year-one, year-two, year-three sequence
02
Honest profiles and first dates without the performance
03
The six-month rule for single dads and the kids
04
The Four Horsemen: recognising what went wrong last time
The Silverback says
Falling in love is chemistry. Staying in love is practice.
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The Silverback's Guide to Dating
Connection in the age of the algorithm.
Gottman. Approach. Online dating. First dates. Single parents. Older Silverbacks. The long game. Communication. Twelve chapters, forty principles of love that lasts.
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Questions about dating after divorce for men
How long should I wait after the divorce?+
Until you are a man worth meeting. The book's divorce volume says survive year one and stabilise year two; the dating volume says the sequence matters more than the calendar.
What about online dating at fifty?+
It works, with honesty. The apps are built to keep you subscribed, so the book shows you how to use them for the one thing you want, which is a real conversation across a table.
Which book do I need?+
Dating, for the arena itself. Divorce, if the rebuild is not done yet. Both are in the complete library.
The Seven Arenas
Which arena is on fire?
01
Being a Man
The internal arena. Who are you when nobody is watching?
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02
Money
Runway, super, the ASX, and not lying awake at 3am.
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03
Selling
Every conversation where someone agrees to something is a sale.
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04
Conflict
Your wife. Your boss. Your kids. The bloke at the registration desk.
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05
Bullies
From the sandpit to the nursing home. How to handle them without becoming one.
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06
Dating
Get this one wrong and the rest of the wins feel hollow.
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07
Divorce
The most expensive event most Australian men will ever experience.
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