The Silverback's Guide
Conflict Resolution for Men
How does a bloke handle conflict without losing his temper or the relationship?
Take the breath, bargain over interests not positions, mirror and label, and never send the email at 2am. The Silverback's Guide to Conflict has the neuroscience, the Harvard method and forty word-for-word scripts.
You will argue with your wife, your boss, your customers, your kids, your contractors, your in-laws and the bloke at the registration desk. How you handle those moments determines the texture of your life. The amygdala hijack is real and it lies; the 18-minute rule gives your brain time to come back online. Then the tools: separate the people from the problem, ask why before what, mirror, label, audit, pause. Win the person, not the argument. The relationship is the asset.
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What this covers
01
The neuroscience of losing your temper and the 18-minute rule
02
The Harvard method: interests over positions, in plain English
03
Voss's tactical empathy: mirror, label, audit, pause
04
Forty scripts for objections, hostile buyers, the silent treatment and the hard conversation at home
The Silverback says
Win the person, not the argument. The relationship is the asset.
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The Silverback's Guide to Conflict
Winning without burning the house down.
De-escalation. The Harvard method. Tactical empathy. Forty word-for-word scripts for objections, hostile buyers, the silent treatment and difficult conversations. Twenty-three chapters, thirty laws.
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Questions about conflict resolution for men
Is this for work or for home?+
Both. The same brain loses its temper in the boardroom and the kitchen, and the same tools work in each. The scripts cover customers, colleagues, partners and kids.
What if I am the one who goes quiet?+
Conflict avoidance is delayed war, and the book treats the silent treatment as its own chapter, from both sides of it.
What does 'peace is a discipline' mean?+
That staying calm is not a personality you either have or lack. It is practised daily, like anything else worth having.
The Seven Arenas
Which arena is on fire?
01
Being a Man
The internal arena. Who are you when nobody is watching?
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02
Money
Runway, super, the ASX, and not lying awake at 3am.
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03
Selling
Every conversation where someone agrees to something is a sale.
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04
Conflict
Your wife. Your boss. Your kids. The bloke at the registration desk.
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05
Bullies
From the sandpit to the nursing home. How to handle them without becoming one.
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06
Dating
Get this one wrong and the rest of the wins feel hollow.
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07
Divorce
The most expensive event most Australian men will ever experience.
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