The Silverback's Guide
How to Deal With a Workplace Bully
How do you deal with a workplace bully?
Keep a paper trail, get support, and raise the specific conduct through an appropriate channel, with safety first. The Silverback's Guide to Bullies covers the workplace, the boss who is the bully and the Fair Work Commission's stop-bullying framework, as general information, not legal advice.
Bullying at work survives in the gap between being noticed and being properly addressed. The book's survival kit starts with the paper trail: 'Paper trail. Paper trail. Paper trail.' Keep relevant emails and messages, and record dates, words, witnesses and effects, lawfully and securely. Then support: a colleague, a union representative or a health and safety representative. Then the distinction: under the Fair Work Commission's stop-bullying framework, workplace bullying is repeated unreasonable behaviour that creates a risk to health and safety, and reasonable management action carried out reasonably is not bullying. You can still report specific conduct without first proving it meets every element of a legal test. When the boss is the bully, get advice before you resign, because some deadlines are short.
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What this covers
01
What bullying is, where banter ends, and a field guide to six species of dickhead
02
The paper trail: what to record, and how to keep it lawfully
03
The Fair Work Commission's stop-bullying framework and your employer's safety duties
04
When your boss is the bully: the exit plan, and advice before you resign
05
Fifty comebacks rated for comedy, not safety, plus six plain boundaries for real life
The Silverback says
Never wrestle a pig in a comments section. You both get filthy, and the pig has been doing this longer than you.
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The Silverback's Guide to Bullies
Stand up. Speak up. Show up.
The sandpit, high school, online, the office, the pub, the neighbours and the nursing home. Sixteen chapters on recognising bullying and getting backup, plus fifty comebacks for the comedy shelf.
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Questions about how to deal with a workplace bully
What if the bully is my boss?+
Chapter 10 covers it. Ask for an alternative reporting route, record apparent retaliation, and get advice about your entitlements and deadlines before deciding to resign. Staying while you build a safer option is not weakness.
Should I confront them?+
Only if it is safe. The book gives plain boundaries such as 'Please put the work request in writing.' The comebacks are satire, scored for laughs, and the book is blunt: 'Do not test a punchline to see whether a dangerous person has a sense of humour.'
What about online bullying?+
Chapter 6 takes it in order: safety first, then evidence and action. Check for immediate danger, keep records of abusive messages where safe and lawful, report to the platform and use eSafety where its criteria apply. Never save or forward sexual images of anyone under 18.
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