The Silverback's Guide
How to Deal With a Workplace Bully
How do you deal with a workplace bully?
Document everything, stay calm, get external advice before HR, and remember that HR works for the company. The Silverback's Guide to Bullies gives you the three criteria, the five species and fifty responses to have ready.
Some bullies are forty-five-year-old executives in chinos and lanyards. The workplace species relies on ambiguity, on you doubting whether it is really happening, and on there being no record. So the first rule is the paper trail: dates, words, witnesses, emails, saved. The second is composure: calm is more lethal than rage, and matching their volume with your steadiness takes away the audience they need. The third is knowing who works for whom: HR works for the company, not for you, so get external advice first. And sometimes the right move is the door. Pride is not a strategy.
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What this covers
01
The three criteria: is it actually bullying, and what to call it
02
Documentation as a weapon: what to record and how
03
HR, Fair Work, the law and when to bring in outside advice
04
Fifty responses, and the comeback arsenal that does not escalate
The Silverback says
Calm is more lethal than rage. Match their volume with your composure.
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The Silverback's Guide to Bullies
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Schoolyard. Online. Workplace. Domestic. The five species. Documentation. Legal. The comeback arsenal. Protecting your kids. Sixteen chapters, fifty weapons-grade responses.
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Questions about how to deal with a workplace bully
What if the bully is my boss?+
Same rules, more care. Document, stay civil in writing, get advice from outside the company early, and know your exit options before you need them. The book covers the boss case specifically.
Should I confront them?+
Sometimes, and the book gives you the scripts. But confrontation without a paper trail and without composure is what the bully is hoping for.
What about online bullying?+
Cyberbullies are cowards with Wi-Fi. Screenshot, block, report. There is a chapter on the online species and one on the domestic one.
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